Chapter 3: What Women Want In A Man

Now that you know what YOU want, it's time to figure out what women want. Once you know what she wants, you can begin fine-tuning your own behavior to better your odds of getting Miss Right. Once you know what she wants, you then have the power to appeal to any woman and make her wants you.

First Things First

Within three minutes of meeting her, a woman will evaluate you, judge you and stereotype you by your first impressinon . Despite this being an unreasonable way to judge a person, women do this to almost avery man they meet.

Make those crucial minutes work for YOU, not against you.

What is communicated and observed during your first few minutes meeting a woman will dictate your future relationship with that woman: you may become friends, lovers, or possibly remain strangers.

Ww are all gulty judging others based solely on their physical appearances, and our personal prejudices and shortcomings. As shallow as that may be, it's true. You must use this judgement period to your advantage. This time is your most valuable opportunity to portray your most attractive qualities. The best way to make your first impression work is to adjust your physical appereance for best results.

Dress To Impress

How should a man dress to impress? First, always wear clothes that correspond to the occasion. Second, always wear a well put-together outfit. If you have trouble deciding on what to wear, it is always best to overdressed that undressed. You wouldn't want to show up in cassual wear for dinner at an expensive restaurant with a woman dressed to kill. A man should always be dressed to meet the occasion or situation. No matter where you are going with a woman, you should always wear clean, well-kept clothes. Believe or not, women prefer clothes that are well-kept and clean to clothes that are worn out or dirty! That may seem obvious to you, but is important to remember. By taking care of how you look, and by showing some style, you show women that you really care about presentation - and women notice!

Look Your Best Way Always

You should always take the time to look your best whenever you go out. You never know when you may have the opportunity to meet a stunning, beautiful woman - the grocery store, Laundromat, Mall or cofee shop.

Be sure to pay attention to whole outfit. It worth the extra money to buy yourself some nice clothes to wear out. And don't forget about the shoes or boot, a new belt and a nice watch. Accesories DO make a huge difference.

If yout wear a well putt-together outfit you will look sharp and portray more confidence.

The way you dress actually will change how you behave. Think about it... if you wore a clown costume all day, you would feel silly and goofy. So if you want to have more sex appeal, wear something that makes you feel sexy. Women will respond to the image you project. Figure out what image you portray now and then make the necessary changes in your wardrobe to attain your desired image. Whatever image you want to give women, be sure you act the part. You should consider all behavior that attributes to your overes to your overall personal image - physical gestures, eye contact. Use your clothes to emphasize your desired image.

With all my expreience, and from talking with other guys, a successful look to maintain is to wear pressed and ironed pants and a sport shirt. Add to these basics a trandy blazer, leather jacket or simple sport coat. Wear some good-quality stylish leather shoes or boots (match your leather jacket if you wear one!) and be sure to always keep your shoes polished.

Be sure to show good taste. The whole outfiin can be relaxed, trendy, conventional, or professional, but any route you take you must look sharp. Try to stay away from wearing a tie. You want to stay loose and approachable - not uptight or snobby looking. A simple well put-together outfit is best. You'll be more successful with women than you've ever imagined if you wear a clean, classic, well put-together outfit that exudes style and self-pride.

Refine Your Grooming Regime

Women notice every little thing about a man's grooming. Every time they see a guy they go through a mental checklist. Is his hair washed and styled? Are his fingernails clean or manicured? Are his shoes polished? Clothes clean? Is he bathed? Does he smell good? These things really matter to women! Clean and neat counts! Find a grooming regime that works for you - and stay polished!

Always, I repeat ALWAYS, shower and shave and use a deodorant before going out to meet a woman. You might think the smell of your sweat is manly and sexy, but most women will strongly disagree Hold off your sharing your rugged body odor until you're hot and heavy in bed. If you are going out specifically to meet new women or for a date, be sure to take some extra time getting ready. Show women that you care about your appereance. Make sure your hair is done properly and your nails are filed and cleaned. Brush your teeth anduse cologne - not too much tough, as women generaly havea better sense of smell than men. Take pride in how you look, and you instantly improve your chances of success!

Get In Shape

You don't have to be buff, ripped, or a body builder just to get the girl. But you should make an effort to keep your body fit. Not only for your health, or how you look to women you first meet, but also for your sexual performance in bed. Even if you just do cardio a few times a week, you'll not only trim the waist line but you'll be able to satisfy your woman long into the night - without having to take a break halfway through! Exercise will not only make you look good, it will make to feel great!

Beside, most women aren't attracted to a man who is overweight and lazy be cause that is a direct indication of how he is as a lover. You want a woman to see you as a man she could be with physically. Even if somebody carries himself well and with good posture, it's an indication of a good lover - in both en and women.

Be Unique

Another important quality that women love in a man is individuality. Women love a man with a presence - someone unique. Toake another look to your self-analysis and decide which quality (or qualities) makes you different, special, or one of a kind. Then come up with a way to draw attention to that quality. Maybe coin a phrase, or use a prop? If you love photography, for example, carry a camerawith you the next time you you go out. We all know most women love getting their picture taken - maybe a beautiful woman eager to be your next model will approach you.

Often, wearing some kind of hat will make you stand out. Even wearing a baseball cap will prevent you from withdrawing into the shadows. If you want to have a little more fun wear a cowboy hat. Or try wearing a S at Christmas time. Women love cuteness in a man.

Whatever method you decide to use, be creative. Be confident and have fun being yourself. Women love a man who shows character.

Build Your Confidence

No matter where you are in your life, you should always know who you want to be. To bulid your self-confidence you need to know who you are, know where you are going, and be actively involved in making your goals reality. If you don't like something about yourself, or you want to try something new, than you should start usibg your spare time to acheve these personal goals. Take a class, attend a seminar, or enjoy ohter activities that will help you become who you want to be. It won't take long for you to to start building the self-confidence to which so women are attracted.

Intrigue Her With Mistery

Another trait that many women find attractiveis a little mistery in a man. While most women claim they want a man who is open, revealing and vulnerable, they also find the strong silent type very appealing. Thought this sounds contradictive, it's relatively easy to respond to. A man who is mysterious intrigues women. She considers this is a challenge, so give in to her playful game.

Dont't tell all right away - save something for later. You must hold back from telling a woman everithing about yourself right away. An easy way to do this is to only answer questions. Don't talk too much about an issue experience - you may say something she doesn't want to hear. Let your personal story reveal itself over time instead of all at once.

Challenge a woman to find out about her

Intrigue the women you are with and she will be more determined to find out about you. Women don't mind having to pray a little to get more information. But be sure not to be overly secretive, though, or she may wonder what you are trying to hide!

Show Her Respect

Women want to be admired and appreciated for their special qualities, even if they deny wanting the attention. Putting the woman of your desire first will pay off. If you show her that who she is and what she says is important to you, you will easily be on her good side. You can do this by being attentive, through compliments, on her looks, a new hair style, or a promotion at work - and by listening to her during your conversations. Show her that you are genuinely interested in her. Admire the woman you are with, respect her and make her feel special. She'll be very happy with you, and she'll want to please you in return!

Give Her A Little Romance

Romance is attractive. It's a little well-known fact that women love to be adored. Being romantic is easier than you think, too! It often means just doing the little things. Surprise her with a single flower or a note in her pocket, take her chicken soup wheb she's sick, or tell her a song reminds you of her.

Women always need reassurance.
She need to know she is needed and wanted.

Women want to hear you say nice things about them. They love flowers and gifts any time. But you cang give her romance too often . If you give too much she'll come to expec it, and there's a chance she'll take it for granted. Don't over do it. Romance is a great Ace to play if she is ever unhappy and you want to cheer her up. A little candlelight, wine and roses will go a long way!

Make Her Laugh

A sense of humour is key when entertaining a woman. If you can make her laugh, you can often win her heart, too. Many women complain about men beeing to serious. So loosen up, relax, and make her laugh when she's with you. Having a sense of humour can make up for other possible shortcomings, too. Men who aren't the best looking or in the best physical shape can often succed with women just by having a great sense of humour. Being funny comes from having the confidence to be weird, silly, overly outgoing, or exaggerated. Let your inhibitions go - use your sense of humour to your advantage! Don't be shy - laugh off-loud, and she'll laugh with you.

Summing Up What Women Want

Women all basically want the same thing: A man who is looking good, who is sure of himself and who shows genuine interestin being with her. Of course, each women has particular traits she looks for. but all women want a man who is unique, fun to be with, and who will treat her with respect.

After studying this chapter. and making the effort to build on the traits discussed, you will become more attractive to women. Once you master looking and acting the way women want, you will develop your own personal image. Women with a similar image will be drawn to you, and you will have greater success with these women.

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